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The Power of Your Emotions

Your emotions are powerful tools to inform you about:

  • What’s important to you
  • What needs to have your attention
  • What your boundaries are

Use your emotions to support you to improve your life.  They’re here to help you gain a greater connection to who you really are.   And isn’t that ultimately, what we’re all seeking? 

Too often in an attempt to remain upbeat, positive, or even to just keep going in our busy lives, we ignore our emotions.  We push them down so they don’t derail us, telling ourselves, “This is for the best”.  Or worse, you’ve been told that to feel or express your emotions is either “immature”, or you’re “being too sensitive”.  Not true.

Your emotions are here to alert you to how you really feel about a situation. And they also link you back to unhealed wounds or disappointments so you’re able to resolve them. 

Holding on to unresolved issues only leads to stress, tension, and physical illness.

Have the courage to listen to your emotions

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The quickest way to move forward in life is to acknowledge what you’re really feeling. Not only is this helpful in getting to the root cause of your discomfort, or even to connect with a sense of joy or peace you might be feeling, but it also is a way to feel fully alive.

When you allow yourself to truthfully experience what you’re going through, you connect with what’s really important to you.

By doing this, you’re honoring who you are – you’re sending a powerful message to your brain that says, “I’m worth it”. Your sense of self and worth rise in response.

On the other hand, if you stuff your feelings, the message to yourself is “My feelings aren’t worth expressing. I’m not worthy of being heard”. When what you really want is, to know you’re worthy of expressing yourself, and of being fully you.

Once you’ve taken the time to identify the motions that are moving through you, you can take steps to release them. The following is a technique you can use as a way to shift and let go of any emotions you’ve been experiencing or holding on to. Emotional Freedom Technique. What is it?

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At Ease In Your Body

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During these challenging times of COVID-19 and world events, it can be easy to drop into doubt, uncertainty, and fear.  Just hearing the news on a regular basis can add to these feelings of tension.

When you’re exposed to ongoing negative news, it can create tension in your body. This isn’t good for your stress levels or your health.    

Reminding your body to relax

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Something you can do to alleviate this stress is to implement a daily routine of “reminding your body” to relax.  If you’ve ever experienced trauma or a frightening event, you know how your body can tense up.  Unfortunately, when there are ongoing traumas or dangers, our body can get locked into a state of perpetual tightness.  Our adrenals stay on high alert rather than letting down once the danger is over.
So what can you do to change this?  You can consciously remind yourself that “At this moment, right here, right now, I am safe”  Because it’s true, right?  If you think about right now, as you’re reading this, there is no imminent danger.  Yes, COVID is still here.  People’s jobs can be uncertain.  But at this very moment, you’re ok.  
We can perceive dangers that could happen in the future as being currently a danger to ourselves.  This isn’t true. 

Is COVID real? Of course, it is.  Should you take precautions in boosting your immune system, washing your hands, and being aware of coming into contact with others who might have COVID?  Of course.  However, when we are truly safe, even if it’s only in the present moment, we need to acknowledge it and take it in. This gives our bodies a break and a chance to let down.


When you let down and relax, you give your immune system a break and a chance to remain healthy.  Letting go of unnecessary stress is key to maintaining your health.

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Steps to reset your body to a state of calm

1. Start your day out with a positive outlook.  

  • The outlook you head into your day sets the tone for your entire day.  Why not be pro-active and set it to one of optimism, hope, exploration?  
  • YouTube has a large variety of motivational videos.  You can start your day with one of these.  Here are a few as examples, or to get yourself started:
  • When you set up your day with a sense of positivity or a great intention, you set the tone of your entire day.

2. Remind yourself that you’re safe. 

  • Consciously take the time to remind yourself that in the present moment you’re safe.  You can think this, write it, or even tap it in.  I’ll include some tapping phrases you can practice as a reminder

3. Find ways to remind yourself to relax.

  • Like any habit, the more you repeat it, the more it becomes second nature.
  • Whether it’s setting a daily reminder in your phone to give yourself a reminder to breathe deeply and just relax, by reminding yourself to relax throughout the day, or doing some rounds of tapping (EFT), you’re training your body to stay in a state of relaxation and ease.

4. Create more routines of self-care.

  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Walks in nature
  • Creating pieces of art
  • Scheduling in downtime just for yourself

5. Find and list the things in your life that you’re grateful for.

  • By shifting your awareness from worry or concern, to what you love or appreciate about your life, you’re giving yourself more uplifting and relaxing thoughts.
  • By being in a state of gratitude, even for a few minutes,  you’re resetting your mind and your body to a more relaxed state.  It also opens your heart and allows you to receive in a much easier way.

Tapping phrases to help create ease

Here are 2 different examples of how to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, or tapping), to create ease in your body.


Example 1: Doing the full round of tapping:
In this exercise you’ll tap through the standard form of EFT starting with the setup phrases:


Setup:
Even though I have all of this tension and worry in my body and in my life, I am ok.

Even though I’m feeling so tense and anxious, I deeply and profoundly accept who I am and how I feel.
Even though I have all this tension in my body, and the world is so uncertain right now, a part of me knows there are ways I can create ease in my body.

Starting on the eyebrow point and continuing with the rest of the points:

  • All of this tension in my body and my mind.
  • All of this tension. I’d like to let it go.
  • I wonder if I can let it go?
  • Maybe I don’t need to be hypervigilant all of the time
  • I wonder how I can create ease in my body? 
  • All of this tension in my body. It’s ok to let it go
  • I wonder if that’s possible?
  • Maybe I can release it a little at a time, in the way that feels right for me

Relax and take a breath and then continue onto the 2nd round of tapping for this exercise:

  • All this tension in my body.
  • All of this fear and doubt.
  • Relax and let it go.
  • All of the need to be in control.
  • I wonder if I can let go of the need to know and just relax?
  • Maybe I can just relax and open up to curiosity and exploration.
  • Maybe I can trust that I have everything I need to make the right decisions
  • Maybe I just didn’t realize I could do this.
  • All of this tension.  Release and let it go.
  • All this tension.  It’s ok to let it goIt’s safe to let it go
  • It’s time to let it go.
  • All of this tension in my body, in my thoughts, and in my emotions. 
  • Release and them it go.

Then take a deep breath.  Hold onto your wrist with your other hand and say, “Peace”  As you do, think of a very pleasant or relaxing memory and just let yourself sit with this for a few moments.

By feeling the memory of a pleasant memory and then holding your wrist, you’re anchoring this feeling deeper into your body and your present time.

You can change any of the words to fit your particular sensations or thoughts as you go through the exercise.

2nd Method of Tapping:

This is one you can do throughout your day when you notice tension in your body:

Here you would skip the setup phrase because you’re already aware of the issue you want to work on, which is the feeling of tension.
You can either tap on one point, or you can go through the whole series of points – whichever feels right for you.  There’s no wrong or right here.

  • I’m safe in my body.
  • Right here, right now, in this moment, I am safe and I choose to relax
  • I’m safe and my body can relax
  • It’s ok for me to relax
  • All of this tension I’m feeling, relax and let it go
  • It’s safe to let it go. 
  • It’s ok to let it go.
  • I am safe
  • I choose to release and let it go.
  • In this moment I choose to recognize that I am safe, right here and right now
  • I can now let down my guard and relax my body
  • I choose to relax my body and feel at ease

Discounts during COVID

As a way to support others during these challenging times, I’ve decided to offer a limited number of discounts for the months of July & August. If our economic shutdown continues past that point, I’ll look at extending the discounts.

If you’re interested in seeing if the work I do could be a support for you right now, email me and we can do a 20-30 min complimentary all to explore how this work can be a support for you.

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Self-criticism – Why it Holds you back – How to let it go

Self- criticism.  It can get in the way of your progress and your happiness. If you think you might be overly critical, or you feel stalled in your attempts to start something new, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Do I constantly pick apart what I’m doing, how I’m acting, or what I wear?
  • Do I find it hard to be happy with my accomplishments, my looks, my behavior?  
  • Do I find it hard to accept compliments for something I’ve accomplished?  
  • Do I ever feel as if what I’m doing isn’t “good enough”?  
  • Am I afraid to take a chance for fear I’ll make a mistake or fail at whatever I want to do?
  • Do I have a hard time giving myself a break?

If any of these sound familiar, or you answered “yes” to any of these, then you’re holding yourself back – not only from moving forward with success, but also of having happiness and contentment in your life.

It’s great to strive for excellence, however, if you aren’t able to let yourself off the hook when you’re anything less than perfect, then you’re being too critical of yourself.  Your own judgment of yourself stands in the way of happiness.  It slows down your ability to make decisions, and it gets in the way of taking action in your life.

While you might know it’s not helpful to be overly critical, maybe you haven’t found a way to rid yourself of these thoughts and feelings.  If you can’t accept yourself for who you are, then maybe it’s time to make a change. Maybe it’s time to give yourself some understanding and compassion.

By understanding and unraveling past events that created this view of who you are, you can let it go and create a happier, more successful life.


Thoughts and beliefs associated with Self-Criticism

Below is a list of thoughts or feelings common to negative thoughts or beliefs: 

  • Not doing a good enough job
  • Falling short of your own expectations
  • Feeling like you’re a failure
  • Doubting your ability to take action or make decisions
  • Feeling like you can’t trust your own judgment when it comes to relationships
  • Not being able to stand up for yourself when you feel you’ve been wronged

If any of these resonate as true for you, maybe it’s time to learn a different way of viewing yourself.

You Weren’t Born Being Critical

It’s important to recognize we weren’t born critical.  It was something we learned from other people.  Whether it was from a well-meaning parent or teacher, it still created a negative self-view.  It’s not how we were meant to think about ourselves.  But through either actions we saw, such as a disapproving look, or comments we heard, we learned that we weren’t enough.  We weren’t good enough, or we just weren’t measuring up.  These were someone else’s judgments as you grew up.  They weren’t something you felt about yourself in the beginning.  And so, being the sponges we are as children, we learned the lesson of judging ourselves harshly.

Sometimes a well-meaning parent might think they’re helping their child to “be a better person“, or “excel at what they do“, when in fact, by constantly focusing on what the child is doing wrong, rather than what they’re doing right, or constantly pushing a child to do better, they undermine the child’s ability to accept themselves.  This behavior also chips away at their self-esteem and self-worth.

Some parents will compare one sibling to another with phrases like, “Why can’t you be more like your brother/sister?”  It might have been said in a moment of frustration, but it’s still damaging to the receiver of the message.  When it’s repeated enough times, it becomes a person’s “truth” or ‘Identity”. 

These kinds of messages can also undermine a person’s ability to be open and trusting in a romantic relationship.  If you feel like you’re opening yourself up for criticism when you let someone get close to you, you’ll put up all sorts of barriers.  When you raise barriers to protect yourself, you rob yourself of true intimacy.  

If opening up to another person represents criticism or hurt, of course you’ll protect yourself from feeling that pain again.  It’s a natural response. So not only are you robbing yourself of enjoying life, just as you are, but you’re also robbing yourself of intimate relationships.

How to let go of  Self-Criticism

The good news is because it’s a learned behavior, it can be unlearned.  The process is a multilayered one, but one you can start today.  In this article I’ll focus on the beginning steps and in subsequent articles will cover how to unravel and release any emotions or beliefs attached to being critical of yourself.  

Begin by identifying any of the negative thoughts going through your mind.  Also, identify any negative or critical comments  and actions you experienced from other people as you grew up.  Write these down so you have something to work on later.

Once you’ve identified the comments, thoughts, and actions, the first thing to do is congratulate yourself for not only taking this first step, but also for having the willingness to even look at it.  This might not be something you usually do, but as you go through the process of letting go of judgment of yourself, you’ll find yourself more willing to look at what’s underneath the habit of self-judgment.

Change your focus – Focus on what you do right.

Instead of focusing on what you’re doing wrong, begin noticing and focusing on what you do right.  While it’s good to notice what you’d like to do better, being overly critical doesn’t serve you.  It holds you back from taking risks or making decisions.  But, denying how you feel or think doesn’t change it – by stuffing your feelings, they don’t go away.  Instead, acknowledge exactly how you feel and then choose where you’re going to place your focus. 

It takes time to change habits.  But vow to do it anyway.  Practice shifting your focus from the negative to the positive.  Once you do, you’ll be surprised at how you start to notice all sorts of positive things – not only about yourself, but also about your life.  These build up over time and you find it not only lifts your mood, but it’s easier to see the positive – in yourself and in others.  In essence, you’re retraining your brain to look for what’s going right in your life, and what you’re doing right.  Like anything else you practice,  over time, it becomes a habit – the habit of noticing your positive traits and actions.

Making the choice of where you focus is only one step.  It’s a start.  What’s more important, is once you understand what beliefs are underneath the habit of being hard on yourself, is to start collapsing these beliefs and replacing them with positive beliefs. When you deal with the comments and thoughts you came up from your list, and any emotions connected to them, this is where real change occurs.

With clients, one of the techniques I use is EFT .  It’s an effective, and easy to learn way to get to the root causes of being overly critical of themselves.  By identifying and then eliminating these causes, they let go of the weight of being hard on themselves.  It frees them up to be creative and take action with more ease.

In upcoming articles, I’ll give some examples of phrases you can tap on to collapse the feelings and release the beliefs.  You’ll gain a sense of relaxation and be able to let go of the tendency to judge yourself too harshly.  

In the meantime, you can download a free copy of an EFT Chart here which includes how to do the process.  

Like anything else revolving around emotions and the effect they have on us, there are layers to why we’re hard on ourselves.  With EFT you can gently look at them and release them so they no longer have a hold over you. 

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Change Your Mind To Change Your Life

Change Your Mind To Change Your Life

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You underlying beliefs run your life 


The biggest block that stands in the way of you receiving what you want, are your beliefs.  These are what drive all of your actions.  

They’ve been called Limiting Beliefs and Negative Beliefs.  But all they are, in their simplest form, are the beliefs your mind came up with as a way to make sense of the world and all that you’ve experienced.  


If you want change, change the beliefs that don’t support you


This might sound overly simple, but it’s true.  Once you change how you view life, situations, yourself, or the world, your entire life will change.  Simple, yet not always easy.  However, it is doable!  And you can do it in a methodical way.

Your mind is only doing its job to keep you safe


Listen, this isn’t a diabolical plot to hold you back.  Our bodies and our minds are geared towards helping us – not hurting us or holding us back.  We are completely geared towards survival, so any belief we came up with was done as a way to make sense of the world and to just survive.  

But here’s the catch.  When our minds came up with the most basic, or core beliefs that we hold, they were made at a time when our brains were still quite immature.  The logical part of our brain, which would tell us that the shadow in the corner isn’t a scary monster, but actually our jacket  hanging on the chair, wasn’t developed or available to us in our early years. 

Because of this, the decisions we made, (and consequent the beliefs we came up with), aren’t always valuable or even true in our adult lives.  They were valid then, in their own way, but they can get in the way in your current life.

What you can do to create change

So, what can you do?  You can start by finding out what your key, driving beliefs are. They aren’t always obvious, but are strongly held in your subconscious – and they are “running the show”.  Some of these beliefs are, “Play it safe”, “Don’t stick out or shine”, “Be careful, you might fail”.   They tell you to stay safe because this is what they’re designed to do.  It’s their job.  
Except, if what you want is a full and fulfilling life, one filled with joy and success, you need to examine whether or not these beliefs are helping you, or hindering you. If they fall into the latter category, it’s time to let them go.

How to examine the beliefs that get in your way

There are several ways to discover what your beliefs are.  To begin the process, take some time to sit and think through the following questions. And as you do, it’s helpful to write down any insights or memories that come up.  These are roadways into what your beliefs are, or could be.  It’s a journey and a very informational one that gives you the insights you need.
1. Ask yourself what the phrases or statements you heard your parents, family, or friends say as you were growing up.  This has a real impact on how you view the world. You’d be surprised at how much these statements can take hold and even become a part of your identity.  If you think about it, it makes sense.  As children we naturally trust our caregivers and those around us to show us the way, and to take care of us.  With our parents in this position, we believe everything we’re told or shown.
But here’s the hitch.  Your parents or caregivers are repeating what they heard or learned from their parents.  Many times people don’t examine what they’re told and just go along with it as if it’s gospel.  But this isn’t always the case.  In fact, most times it’s not.  They repeated these statements as a way to help you because it’s what they believed.  But not all of those statements empower you or encourage you to be your best self. 
2.  What experiences did you have growing up?  Were they challenging or traumatic?  If they were, then your view of the world could be, “Life is difficult”, “The world isn’t safe”, “Other people aren’t safe”, just to name a few. 

Your experiences shape your life 

What you’ve lived through has shaped your life and how you express yourself in it.  Our experiences actually change how each of our brain develops, and continues to develop.  Studies on the brain by Niall Duncan showed how the brain is affected by adverse childhood experiences.  
As stated in an article in The US Library of Medicine, National Institutes of health, “Research in humans and animals has shown that negative childhood experiences (NCE) can have long-term effects on the structure and function of the brain. Alterations have been noted in grey and white matter, in the brain’s resting state, on the glutamatergic system, and on neural and behavioural responses to aversive stimuli.”   
The study and implementation of Neuroplasticity now shows how our brains can be changed and rewired in positive ways. 

Change your view of life 

Instead of viewing your experiences as negative, which many of them might have been, try viewing them from a position that empowers you.  Look at them as,  “How can I move past this, let it go, and learn something valuable from it?”  Because everything you’ve gone through has brought you to where you are today.  And because of this, you have a unique understanding of something another person wouldn’t have.  You can actually use this understanding to help others, or even to just help yourself by holding more compassion for yourself.  But it does tend to give you a deeper appreciation of what other people are struggling with.  When you go through a difficult challenge, it helps you to hold compassion for other people who are also struggling.  It makes you more human.
3. What “examples” did you see growing up?  What did the people in your life do, feel about certain things, or how did they express themselves?  As you grow up, your brain learns by example and by viewing others. All of this, even when unspoken, also has impact on how we view life and the world in general.  
4. Another way to find out what beliefs are running in the background of your life, is to stand back and look at your life. 
  • Is your life easy? 
  • Do you struggle with money, relationships, or confidence? 
  • Do things come to you easily, or do you find that everything is an uphill battle? 
  • What is present in your life is formed by your internal beliefs.
Objectively looking at your life will give you valuable clues to what you might want to change or keep.  They’re all indications of what your subconscious mind believes.  The good news here though, is that you can change what you believe, and consequently, vastly impact your life in positive ways. 

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Release the beliefs that no longer serve you

Once you’ve written down any memories, events, or statements from your past, you can then start to examine what your limiting beliefs might be.  You might know some of them right off the bat.  But, if you don’t, ask yourself, “What might be the belief be that I came away with from this…….(example, experience, or statement)?  
For instance, if your parents struggled with money, some normal, common beliefs would be:
  • Money is hard to come by
  • Life is a struggle
  • I never have enough for what I need
  • You have to work hard to make money
  • I’m not worthy
These are just a few examples of beliefs that would be tied to a similar home situation.  Each person is individual in what their particular mind comes up with.  What your mind creates won’t be the exact same as another person, so honor whatever it is you feel or discover.  This is important because it’s truly honoring and respecting who you are and what you need to look at in order to make improvements in your life.  
The more precise you can be, the better because then you have a better understanding of what drives you.  This is a fascinating process, and it doesn’t have to be challenging.  The best way to do this is to find techniques which support the process in being simple and easy.  You don’t need to struggle or suffer in order to create great change in your life.  I feel fortunate that I’ve been able to learn ways which help create change in simpler, easier ways.  There are numerous techniques that anyone can learn and use, either with a professional or on their own.  
When you support yourself by approaching your beliefs in this way, change is inspiring – not scary or challenging. 

The final step – Create new positive beliefs 

When you know what the limiting beliefs are, you have the information to change them to more positive and empowering beliefs.  A belief such as, “Life is a struggle” could be changed to “My life is effortless and I move through the world with ease“. 
The sky’s the limit with what you can create in your life.  Be daring, experiment, and then do the work to come into full alignment with your new, positive beliefs.  
If you’re having trouble with any of the above steps, I offer a 20-minute free consultation to discuss any changes you’d like to make or goals you want to reach.  Having an outside perspective helps give you a clearer view of what steps to take, or blocks your success.

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Balance In Relationships

Balance In Relationships

To have harmony and ultimately happiness, it’s important to have balance in relationships.  All of your relationships.  Whether it’s friendships, marriages, or even work relationships, balance is important.

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Balance in Relationships

Many people don’t think about balance.  It’s not always something that comes naturally.  Because the human brain is designed to be efficient, it makes decisions about whatever we experience.  These can be  events, people, relationships, really anything.  The brain then places these into categories.  This is true of objects, people, or relationships. Once the brain has made this decision, it goes about relating to the person, object, etc, in the same manner each time.  It’s meant as a way to simplify life.  So, why is this a problem?

How the Brain Can Undermine The Balance in Relationships

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How does this relate to balance?  Because the brain is being efficient, it  has a set way of viewing things.  Once your brain has categorized a relationship, it takes a lot to change this opinion.  It takes effort to consciously change how you view a certain relationship and the balance within it.  It’s much easier to have placed the object, relationship, etc into a category and then relate to it in the same manner each time.  It’s more efficient.  But it can take a toll on you or your interactions with people.

How does efficiency impact a friendship?

How this impacts relationships is,  if you have a friend who always seems to have problems or disasters in their life and you rush in to help out – lending emotional support or any other kind of support, their brain categorizes you as “the helper, saver, or person to turn to, in disasters.”  They can unconsciously view you as the person they go to when they have a problem.  If they aren’t  aware of the brain’s tendency to categorize, they view you in only one way – the receive, you give.  The relationship then becomes unbalanced. Whenever you need support, they don’t seem to be there.  They might not step in to help.  It’s as if they have blinders on and can’t comprehend your need for support or help.

This type of relating can happen on either end.  In some instances, you might be the helper, and in other relationships, you might find you lean on someone you know.  While it’s great to have emotional support, it needs to be done in balanced ways.
Generally speaking though, people tend to stay in the same category with all of their relationships.  If you tend to be “the giver”, then you’re most likely “the giver” in all your relationships – from work to home.  You generally give to everyone you know.

But this takes a toll on you.  You don’t receive the support or nurturing that’s important to everyone.  While giving is an honorable thing to do, it isn’t fair if that’s all you do.  It isn’t fair to you, and ultimately, it isn’t actually fair to the other person.  When you act in a balanced way and expect others to do the same, you’re giving them the opportunity to grow as a person.  To relate to you in a fair and balanced way.  The relationship only grows stronger because of it.  If not, resentments build and the relationship begins to deteriorate.

When you’re able to give as well as receive, you feel more balanced.  It gives you a feeling of completeness because you’re acting in a way which is more holistic to the human emotions.

You Have a Choice 

The good news is, now that you know how our brains function, you can make a conscious decision about all of your relationships.  You have a choice.  You can make the choice to have balanced relationships in all areas of your life. Not only will you feel much better and lightweight, but you’ll also feel personally empowered.  Your relationships will grow and thrive. 

Change Isn’t Always Easy – For both sides

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You might’ve decided to go ahead and make changes.  However, some people might resist this change.  Remember, our brains like to be efficient.  They’re just doing the job they were created to do.  But when you decide to change course, even when it’s for the better, you’ll be rocking the boat – even a little.  It can come as a surprise to other people.  They’ve been relating to you in a certain light and now suddenly you’ve changed.  They might not all react in a positive way.
That’s okay.  Do it anyway.  You can do it gently, but firmly.  By doing this, you’re empowering them to be better and happier people – with healthier, more balanced interactions.  You’re giving them the opportunity to participate in  healthy, alive, and thriving relationships.  When you demonstrate  balance in your relationships, you’re giving a powerful example.  They then have the choice to participate in the same way. 
As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”  Lead by example. Dare to take the first step in your happiness and the happiness in all of your relationships. 
To discover ways in which you can create balance in your life contact me to book a complimentary call.  We’ll discuss how I can be of service to you.


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Take Action and Be Willing To Make Mistakes

Take Action and Be Willing To Make Mistakes

To live a full and vibrant life you have to be willing to take action.  Take action and be willing to make mistakes.



You’re going to make mistakes – It’s part of the game

Anything worth doing comes with mistakes.  You can’t do anything great if you aren’t willing to push the envelope at least a little in what you’re capable of doing.  If you play it safe and only do what you’re good at, it’s boring.  You don’t challenge yourself to see exactly what you can do in life and you certainly don’t grow as a person.

Take a chance.  When an idea comes to you, go with it.  Explore the possibilities.  At least learn what you can about it – the process, the ups and downs of doing it.  Only then can you make a conscious decision if it’s something you want to pursue.

What will your life be like in 5 yrs if you don’t take a chance?

Think of this.  If you don’t try anything new or step outside your comfort zone, what will your life be like in say 3 yrs?  What about 5 yrs?  Does the picture look promising?  Be hones with yourself.

Life is for living.  For putting yourself into what you do, full force and with passion.  I don’t care if you’re outside raking the leaves. Engage in it and enjoy what you can about it.  Find the bright side to it and let yourself drop into that.  It could be:
1. You’re exercising
2. It’s a beautiful, breezy day (if you like breezes)
3. You’re making your place look better.  It feels great to have a neat yard.

Whatever it is, whatever you’re doing, find a way to make if fun, or at least enjoy some aspect of it.  If you cant, DON’T do it!  Find a way to put the fun into all of your efforts.  If you can’t find anything that’s fun, maybe you need a reality check on how you view things.

There’s nothing wrong with reality checks

We sometimes need a wake up call to show us where we’re just coasting – not reaching our full potential.  Sometimes life pulls you off course and you don’t notice you’ve fallen into a kind of rut.  It’s easy to fall into the same kind of thought patterns.  It happens.  Not a big deal. Find a way to get back on course.  Read something inspirational.  Take a course. Hire a coach.  Do whatever it takes to get back in the game – full out with all of you engaged.  You might even consider implementing ways to do a check on your thoughts, moods, and actions from time to time.  

Do what works for you

The best thing you can do for yourself is to set up a strong system that supports your success.  A system that keeps you in alignment with your strengths, abilities, and creativity.  What you bring to the world is important and makes a difference for everyone around you.  Find what works for you and then do it, courageously.

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