If you want change of any kind, start gently. Don’t overwhelm yourself and sabotage your success by trying to take on too much. Or by trying to take too big of a step.
Sometimes you’re ready to take a big step and that’s great. Go for it, full force. But sometimes you’re just trying to get started on a project, a career change, doing something new, or just trying to get out of a slump. And other times, you hit a standstill in your progress and you’re looking to jump start your momentum. If any of these scenarios are where you’re at, start with steps that are doable. Doable for you.
Don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself with someone else. This is about you and what you need. And don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself to what you’ve done in the past. This is about now. The past is over and you can’t change it. Don’t waste your time thinking back. If you do, you’re taking your focus off of what you can work on now. Deal with where you’re at, in this moment.
Sometimes it’s hard to let go of comparing yourself to either past successes, or past failures. If you do, using EFT is a great way to let go of the memories or emotions associated with those past experiences. You can use EFT to collapse the hold they have over you and your present life.
Set yourself up for success- the process of small steps
What if you just can’t get the motivation to even begin? Start there. Wherever you are, that’s where you start. If you’re lacking motivation, look at what keeps you from beginning. What are you afraid of? Yes, it’s fear that causes lack of motivation, procrastination, and overwhelm – that habit of taking on way too many projects so you just don’t have the time or energy to do what it is you say you want to do.
Don’t judge yourself over this. Just recognize it’s your body and mind protecting you from a perceived threat.
Don’t judge yourself over this. Just recognize it’s your body and mind protecting you from a perceived threat.
What keeps you from action?
What keeps anyone from action? Good old fashioned fear. It’s our survival mechanism jumping in when we feel threatened. And taking action or making changes can feel threatening. It doesn’t matter if you’re excited about doing something or feel compelled to do it.
When we start to change something, fears can pop up. “What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough, smart enough, or have enough backing to do it?” “What if I make a fool of myself? What if the people around me react negatively about it?” These are all genuine fears.
We’re part of the human race – challenges come with the territory
We’re alive. We’ve lived through difficult experiences. It’s part of being human. Another part of being human is our minds making decisions about these past events so we don’t have to experience anything similar to them again. But many of those decisions aren’t relevant to what you’re going after. They’re holdovers from when you were little.
Have the willingness to look at the fear. Examine if it’s relevant to what you’re attempting to do now, and then learn to move through it. When you have the tools to deal with fear, it becomes easier to release.
No worries – fear can be dealt with
Fear. Not pleasant, and not fun. But…it’s what drives us to protect ourselves. It helps us survive. All good when it’s appropriate. But if it holds you back, it’s not serving it’s purpose. Instead of avoiding fear, see what you can learn from it, and then let it go.
Identify what the possible fear, or “downside” is to what you’re striving to do. Then tap through it with EFT. When you collapse what’s behind your fear, you rid yourself of what’s blocking your success.
Sometimes there’s more than one layer
There might be several layers or different aspects of what’s holding you back. Many times, this is the case. Just address each one as they come up. You might also find that as you come closer to achieving success, or your goal, new fears crop up. You might suddenly find yourself sabotaging the success you’ve achieved as you move forward. Sabotage can be anything from missing a deadline, not returning a call, or just plain procrastinating. That’s ok. Deal with the fears as they come up.
Peel back and examine each layer until you’re fully on your way to success. Don’t lose your enthusiasm if you have to work through several layers. Instead, recognize that you’re moving forward and remember to “tap in” the progress you’ve made.
By tapping in the positives, you’ll be more willing to keep going until you reach your goal. If you focus too much on “what’s wrong”, working on yourself can become a drag. Do yourself the favor of tapping in what’s going right for you and the progress you are making.
Peel back and examine each layer until you’re fully on your way to success. Don’t lose your enthusiasm if you have to work through several layers. Instead, recognize that you’re moving forward and remember to “tap in” the progress you’ve made.
By tapping in the positives, you’ll be more willing to keep going until you reach your goal. If you focus too much on “what’s wrong”, working on yourself can become a drag. Do yourself the favor of tapping in what’s going right for you and the progress you are making.
Sign up for either an EFT Tapping Chart, or an EFT tapping exercise for letting go of past failures.
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